Friday, September 30, 2011

How To Say I Love You (Before It's Too Late)

Are We Afraid To Say "I Love You"?

How often do we say "I love you"? When a friend or a loved one dies, we wish we'd said "I love you" more often. But then it is too late...

"I love you" seems to be a "loaded" statement. It requires a form of commitment to say these words. We might have to overcome the fear of expressing our true feelings. Maybe we don't trust ourselves to follow up on our momentary emotional honesty. What does it mean for us to say "I love you"? What are the stories, the baggage, the duties we take on by sharing our hearts?


Look, I'm no shrink - I'm speaking only from my own experience, but maybe you can identify with some of my observations. I'm NOT talking about the easy "I love you's" between happily-married couples or folks in a committed relationship - such as a parent/child or a longterm friend/friend situation.

I want to look at the moments when we hesitate to follow our natural desire to say "I love you", or even abandon our initial intention because something scares us into a more "comfortable" silence.

Just as with so many other things in our lives - when we are about to say "I love you" - we take our past and put it into our future!


We quickly go back over our entire emotional history and think about everything that happened the last times we said "I love you", and we expect the same things to happen this time again. We subconsciously pre-load our spontaneous feelings and when we finally decide to express them they come out somewhat like this:


I love you because I usually get a great boost to my self-esteem from your positive reaction and we have a lovely time together until things start to cool off and it gets really awkward for a while and we call it quits and that hurts - and I better shouldn't have said I love you in the first place.

I love you but then you might want to get married and all of a sudden my money goes out the door for all kinds of clothing and furniture which we don't need if we don't move in together leave alone having kids and I work my butt off and have no more fun...let me just say - I really like you!

I love you but what if I'm not good enough for you and when we get closer you'll find out about all my bad habits and weaknesses and I'm sure your mother will have something to say about me that will influence you negatively towards me and I couldn't possibly survive a rejection of my feelings - why can't we just be friends for a while?

Funny, isn't it? Notice how the "I love you's" are closely followed by "I" or "me" references?

Putting The You Back Into I Love You

Letting go of the ego...




Honestly, When I Say "I Love You" -

I think about me first...


When I say "I love you" - I automatically think of all the benefits I might get from that statement:

 
  • A really nice, warm and fuzzy feeling inside.
  • A return assurance that you love me, too.
  • A friend/partner for the future.
  • A grateful smile of appreciation.
  • A feeling of satisfaction through my "giving" gesture.

Actually, there's nothing wrong with this list, right? But...

Could it be that there is more to "true love" than an exchange of cozy feelings?

Could it be that "I love you" means...

I am now committed to your well-being
regardless of my thoughts or feelings?


Questions...

Looking for answers

 
 
Have we ever claimed to love someone unconditionally - if they love us, too?

Could it be that we confuse "love" with "infatuation"?

Should we say "I love you" only when we really mean it? Mean what?

Are there any different degrees and definitions of love?

What is "true love"?

If love hurts - is it love?

Which is "blind" - love or infatuation? Or something else?

"DON'T YOU KNOW THAT I LOVE YOU?!" Hmm...really?


We Say I Love You - How? When? Why?
 

Do we need instructions? Guidelines? Caution?

 
I've been there. I've said "I love you" and the person pulled away, shocked: "Why did you say that? It's too soon - you don't know it yet!"

Is it necessary - or even possible - to "know it"? Shouldn't "I love you" come spontaneously from the heart?

You say: I love you. How, when, why?



To My Future Husband

To My Most Precious Future Husband,

I don't even know where to begin. I am overwhelmed by God's grace and tenderness which I do not even deserve. I was walking in darkness, but by His grace I am a child of Light. I crave the things of Light. My soul's desire is to serve God in every way.

You may be surprised by this, but I have been praying for you. Not just for God to send you my way, but earnestly praying for God to be doing a work in your life preparing you to be a godly husband as He is doing in my life so that I may be a godly wife. I want to submit to you and honor you all the days of my life as God commands. I want to be the recipient of your Agape love. I want to give you children, take care of you when you aren't well, hold you when you are hurting, and lift you up in prayer every single day. I want us to share devotionals, worship God together at church, and raise our children in the ways of the Lord.

I want your family to love me and I want you love your family. Likewise, I want my family to love you and for you to love my family. I want us to share Sunday suppers and have family Bible study. I want to embrace time-honored family traditions and begin new ones for ourselves and our children. I want to worship God as one family unit.

You should know that I have made some mistakes. I have stumbled so many times but God has forgiven me and I have learned to forgive myself. I can only pray than when the time comes for me to share with you some of my past that you can forgive me and I can forgive you of yours. I know that through Christ we can surmount any obstacle.

The most important gift I can give you is my love and devotion. The second most important gift I can give you is my purity. On our wedding day I want to be able to stand before God, the community, and you knowing that I have waited for you and saved every aspect of my sexuality for you, all the way down to our first kiss. You see, I have given my kiss away before to men who did not respect or appreciate what a gift it is. I have been redeemed through Christ and I'm saving every part of my body and soul in that respect for you and you alone to be reveled in on our wedding day.

I know you're out there and how exciting it is that God made you just for me! I can only pray you feel the same way about me and you're just as hopeful as I am. I promise I will love you, honor you, and respect you for as long as I live. I will give you my all. I know there will be struggles and pain, but through Christ we will overcome any obstacles that satan puts in our path. I'm praying for you. I can't wait to meet you and spend the rest of my life with you.

Your Future Wife,
Emma

The Perfect Day

His dog was dying. But they could spend one last day together

This is excerpted from Jon Katz's new book, Going Home: Finding Peace When Pets Die.

It is possible to take something beautiful and lasting out of the heart-wrenching experience of seeing the animal you love move inexorably toward death. Nobody can take the grief away, nor should anyone try, but our love for animals is nothing but a gift, and it keeps on giving, even when they go home.

A man named Harry, an Iraq war veteran and tennis coach from Minnesota, hit upon a simple and profound idea to transform this otherwise sad experience into a blessed one.

It was a gray morning when the vet told Harry that his dog Duke's heart was failing and that it wouldn't be long before he died. Harry was not surprised, but still, the news depressed him. Listening to the vet, Harry later told me, he'd gotten an idea, one he thought would pay tribute to his life with Duke and give him something to feel besides sadness and loss.

"Tomorrow, I'm going to give you a Perfect Day," he said quietly to Duke as they left the vet's office. He would take the day off from work and create a sweet memory with his dog. It would be a special day, filled with all the things Duke loved most, as close to perfect as Harry could make it. He would take his camera along to capture some images of the day, to preserve the memories.

Duke was a border collie/shepherd mix. He had always been a lively, energetic dog and would herd anything that moved. Walks, work, food, Frisbees, red balls—these were the things Duke loved, along with chasing balloons and popping them.

Harry went shopping for supplies, and when he came back Duke was napping on his dog bed. He went over, lay down next to the dog, and hugged him. "Pal," he whispered, "tomorrow is for you, your Perfect Day." He was embarrassed to tell his wife, Debbie, about the plan, but she sensed what was going on and gave the two of them the space they needed. It was her belief that the dog, more than anything else, helped Harry heal from the trauma of Iraq. He couldn't look at Duke without smiling, and when he had first come home, he hadn't smiled too often.

At eight the next morning, Harry got up. Duke was lying on his bed, which was next to Harry and Debbie's. The dog rose a bit slowly, then followed Harry down the stairs and into the kitchen. Harry opened the refrigerator and took out a hamburger patty and two strips of bacon, cooked the night before. He put them on a plate and into the microwave.

Duke was riveted. When the plate came out—Harry touched it to make sure it was warm but not hot—he dumped the meat into Duke's bowl, along with his heart pills. It was as if Duke couldn't believe his eyes. He was almost never given people food. Looking up at Harry, as if asking permission, he waited until Harry nodded and said, "OK, boy," before inhaling the food.

A feeling of sadness came over Harry as he thought about how Duke would soon be gone. He wandered into the living room and lay down on the couch. Duke came over and curled up next to him. Harry began to sob, softly, then more deeply and loudly; Duke gently licked his face.

After a few minutes, Harry rose to get dressed. Although he worried about straining the dog's heart, he let Duke follow him up the stairs. On this day, Duke could do anything he wanted. No corrections. He sat on the bedroom floor and watched Harry put his clothes on. When Harry said "Sneakers," Duke labored to get up onto his feet, walked over to the closet, and brought Harry his white running shoes. Harry had enjoyed training his dog to bring him his sneakers, and Duke seemed to love it too.

Harry went back downstairs, followed by Duke. He picked up a bag from the pantry and walked out into the yard. Inside the bag were two dozen high-bounce red balls. One at a time, he threw them and bounced them off the back fence. Duke tore after one gleefully, then another, catching some, narrowly missing others as they whizzed past his head.

When Duke started to pant, Harry stopped.

Next they went to the town pond. Harry sat by the water's edge while Duke waded in, paddled around, swam back, shook himself off, and then repeated the routine about a dozen times. Every few minutes Harry tossed the dog a liver treat. It practically rained the small and pungent treats. Once again, Duke looked as if he could hardly believe his good fortune.

They came back to the house and napped. After lunch, Harry took Duke to the vast state park outside of town. He picked a flat, gentle trail, and the two of them walked a couple of miles. Eventually, they came to a stone abutment with a beautiful view. Harry walked over to the edge and sat down. Duke clambered out and curled up beside him. It was a gorgeous afternoon, and the wind ruffled the dog's hair. Duke held his nose up to the wind, picking up the scents of the earth.

God, I love this creature, Harry thought. I never feel this peaceful, this much at ease. It is something to remember, to honor.

They sat together for nearly an hour, enjoying a bond of complete understanding and affection. If only the world could stay like this, Harry thought, this simple, this good.

Harry knew that Duke was tired, so they took their time walking back, stopping frequently to rest. A few years earlier, Duke could have hiked all day, and sometimes they did that together. But not anymore.

When they got home, Harry cooked Duke some prime sirloin, then chopped it up. The dog was beside himself, looking up at Harry as he ate, expecting the food to be taken away. That evening, Harry put one of his favorite Clint Eastwood movies into the DVD player and Duke hopped up onto the couch, put his head in Harry's lap, and went to sleep. When the movie was over, Harry carried the dog up the stairs and laid him down on his bed.

Several weeks after the Perfect Day, when Harry came home from work, Duke was not there by the door to greet him, and he knew he was gone. He went into the living room to find Duke dead. He knelt by his dog, closed his eyes, and said a prayer. Then he dug a deep hole in the backyard and buried Duke there, along with some bones, his collar, and some of his beloved red balls

Of all the photos Harry took on the Perfect Day, the one he loved the best was of Duke sitting out on the stone ledge in the state park, taking in the sights and smells.

Now every morning before he goes to work, he flips open his cellphone and smiles at the picture of Duke, looking for all the world like a king surveying his territory.

Harry passed on the idea of the Perfect Day to friends and other dog owners struggling to come to terms with their own pets' failing health. Many have since shared with him the stories of their dog's Perfect Day. It makes him happy to think about Duke's legacy—all those Perfect Days for all those other great dogs leaving our world behind.


Thursday, September 29, 2011

Admiration

 


Admiration is a feeling of wonder. The wow factor! When you can't believe how well someone did something or how beautiful they are, it is admiration.


What Do People Admire?


1- Beauty

2- Hard Work

3- Intelligence

4- Friendship

5- Love

6- Charitable Actions to others.

7- Well Spoken

8- Positive Words

9- Kindness

10- Fun

11- Good sense of humor

12- Go for it attitude

Who Do You Admire?


Feed My Sheep



John 21:17 NIV
The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep.

The homeless man I trailed behind on a Main Street in Riverside, CA, dragged his tattered sleeping bag behind him. Gray and dingy with the stuffing falling out, it looked as downtrodden as he.

His face was speckled with salt and pepper stubble. He limped as he walked. He wore a dark ski cap on his head and an open flannel shirt over a t-shirt.

He stopped, turned, and demanded, "Give me a dollar, so I can get somethin' to eat."

My friends don't approve when I talk to people who live on the streets, but it was lunch time and crowds of people were enjoying the rare sunshine, so I wasn't afraid.

Besides, since I have adopted my attitude of expecting miracles this week, I thought I'd see how far this would pan out.

"No, I won't give you a dollar, but I'll buy you a meal instead." I looked him straight in his foggy eyes.

He turned from my gaze confused. He didn't expect this response. I glanced down and noticed thick grimy city dirt caked on his wrists and along his forearms. Obviously it had been awhile since he had bathed.

Fortunately, my sinuses have clogged up my sense of smell, or else he might have been too odoriferous to try a miracle on.

He considered my counter proposal and grumbled, "Okay." He asked where I wanted to take him. I replied it was his choice.

He seemed even more frustrated by me.

We stood outside a sushi restaurant. "You want sushi?" he quizzed me. Before I could reply he cut me off. "I don't like sushi."

"Fine, then what about a sandwich? There's a deli over---" Before I could point to the deli across the street he turned to me and said, "I tell you what, why don't you buy me a meal another time?" Then he sprinted down the street in the opposite direction from where I was headed. I was one block away from a local dive that fixed hot meals.

My miracle? I don't know. I expected it, but it didn't seem to arrive. All I tried to do was feed a man and not his addictions.

Jesus commanded, "Feed my sheep." I tried real hard today. I'll expect a miracle tomorrow and we'll see how that works out.
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Lord, thank you for helping me be brave enough to try to help the homeless man. He is one of your lost sheep. I pray someone will be able to bring him and others like him back into the fold.


I Trust You, Lord



This past week it seems like worries old and new have been coming to my mind a lot. It’s not that I have a real cause to worry when I really think about my life, but it’s so incredibly easy to fall back into it again and again.

When these worries come to mind, I’ve found myself mini-praying, “I trust You, Lord,” and giving up that worry to Him once again. I’m amazed at how many times I have to use those four words, but it’s a wonderful reminder to me of how I can cast my anxieties upon Him, knowing that He does care for me (1 Peter 5:7).

I was having one of these moments as I was doing my Bible reading last night, and only seconds later, these are the words God spoke back to me through His Word:

“ For the LORD God is a sun and shield;
The LORD gives grace and glory;
No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.
O LORD of hosts,
How blessed is the man who trusts in You!”
- Psalm 84:11-12

The Lord reminded me so timely that He blesses those who trust in Him. By placing my trust in Him, He promises to bless: not necessarily with the working-out of my worries in the way I want them worked out, but in the way that He desires them to work out. God is in control and can take care of these worries and others that I might have.

And I can rest assured in my loving, competent God


Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Decide

Which will you choose?

So you've read about God, Jesus, and the Bible. You've read about the Gospel, Jesus' plan for connecting you to God and giving you something more to live for. (If you haven't read about these things, take a few minutes to do so you might be surprised at what you read!)

But what do you do with all this?

Simply reading about Jesus and God isn't enough. You have a choice to make. You have to decide what to do with the radical and far-reaching claims that the Bible makes about you, Jesus, and your relationship with God.

Let's review the heart of those claims:

First, the Bible says that you (like every other human who's ever lived) are unable to know true peace because your sin has separated you from God.

But secondly (and this is the good news!) God still loves you, and wants you to know him and live a life that's in phase with his will. God sent his only son, Jesus, to become a human himself and pay the price for your sins. Death is where sin inevitably leads�but Jesus died voluntarily in your place. When you believe that Jesus died for your sin, you're home free. The slate's wiped clean, and God chalks up your sin as "paid in full" by Jesus. The barrier that stood between you and God is gone.

We call this story "the Gospel," or Good News... because what could be better news than learning that God is inviting you into his family?

So what is this choice that you have to make? It's simple: you have to choose whether or not to believe in Jesus' sacrifice. That means admitting that your sin keeps you from God, and that Jesus offers the way back home. That's all you have to do: accept this free gift from Jesus, no strings attached.

There are three ways you can respond to this choice:

1 You can decide not to believe in Jesus. Choosing this option sends you back to Square One, looking on your own for answers to your heart's questions. There are lots of people out there claiming to have answers, but be warned: the Bible says that there's only one way to God, and that's through Jesus. There's no prize for second place.

   
2 You can put off the decision until later. Maybe you want to take some time to think about this or read more about it. There's lot more here about Jesus and his Gospel message, so have a look around. But be careful Jesus' offer is open to all, but if you never get around to making a choice, that's not any different than rejecting him.

   
3 You can accept Jesus' offer of freedom by acknowledging your sin and asking Jesus to take it away. Jesus promises you freedom from guilt and sin, and a chance to start things fresh. You'll live a new life a life with a purpose, knowing that God loves you and will help you through whatever life throws your way.

Which will you choose? However you choose to respond to Jesus' claims, I'd love to hear from you. I'd be happy to answer your questions, or help point you to resources that can help you make a decision. And if you've decided to believe in Jesus, I want to be the first to welcome you to your new life and help you get started! The choice is yours!


Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Have You Ever Looked At Your Hands?

This one is good; I’ll never look at my hands the same again!

Grandma, some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the patio bench. She didn’t move, just sat with her head down staring at her hands. When I sat down beside her she didn’t acknowledge my presence and the longer I sat I wondered if she was OK.

Finally, not really wanting to disturb her but wanting to check on her at the same time, I asked her if she was OK. She raised her head and looked at me and smiled. “Yes, I’m fine, thank you for asking,” she said in a clear voice strong.

“I didn’t mean to disturb you, grandma, but you were just sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were OK,” I explained to her.

“Have you ever looked at your hands,” she asked. “I mean really looked at your hands?”

I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point she was making.

Grandma smiled and related this story: “Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well throughout your years. These hands, though wrinkled, shriveled and weak have been the tools I have used all my life to reach out and grab and embrace life.”

“They braced and caught my fall when as a toddler I crashed upon the floor. They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back. As a child my mother taught me to fold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots. They held my husband and wiped my tears when he went off to war.”

“They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent. They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold my newborn son. Decorated with my wedding band they showed the world that I was married and loved someone special. They wrote my letters to him and trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse.”

“They have held my children and grandchildren, consoled neighbors, and shook in fists of anger when I didn’t understand.”

“They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body. They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw. And to this day when not much of anything else of me works real well these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to fold in prayer.”

“These hands are the mark of where I’ve been and the ruggedness of life. But more importantly it will be these hands that God will reach out and take when he leads me home. And with my hands He will lift me to His side and there I will use these hands to touch the face of Christ.”

I will never look at my hands the same again. But I remember God reached out and took my grandma’s hands and led her home.

When my hands are hurt or sore or when I stroke the face of my future children and husband I'll think of grandma. I know she has been stroked and caressed and held by the hands of God. I, too, want to touch the face of God and feel His hands upon my face.

God’s Holding Pattern



Many times God will allow a painful situation or a painful circumstance in our life to “swallow us up.” This season in our spiritual growth is a holding pattern. We can’t move to the left or the right. All we can do is sit, like Jonah sat in the belly of that great fish, so God can have our undivided attention and speak to us.

God put Jonah in a holding pattern because He needed to speak to his heart. Jonah was all alone. There were no friends to call, no colleagues to drop by, no books to read, no food to eat, no interference, and no interruptions. He had plenty of time to sit, think, meditate, and pray.

When we’re deep down in the midst of a difficult situation, God can talk to us. When He has our undivided attention, He can show us things about ourselves that we might not otherwise have seen.

A Few of God’s Holding Patterns:

1. When you are sick in your physical body and you have prayed but God has not healed you yet, you are in a holding pattern.

2. When you are having problems with your children and you have put them on the altar, but God has not delivered them yet, you are in a holding pattern.

3. When you have been praying for the salvation of a loved one and they have not been saved yet, you are in a holding pattern.

4. When you are in a broken relationship and you have given it over to God, but it has not been restored yet, you are in a holding pattern.

5. When the doors slam shut before you can knock on them, you are in a holding pattern.

When we are deep in the belly of a difficult situation, there are no interruptions. God has our undivided attention. All we can do is sit, think, meditate, and pray. We cannot run from God because there are no Mountains that are high enough, valleys low enough, rooms that are dark enough, or places that are hidden enough from Him. We must remember to praise Him while we’re waiting and remember three things:

1. The pattern has a purpose.
2. The pattern has a plan.
3. The pattern has a process.

So stop struggling and start listening, praying and trusting. He’ll keep you right where you are until you can clearly hear Him say, “I love you.”

Prayer: Father, forgive my unbelief. I know You Love me and will turn anything around to benefit me. You have planned nothing for me but victories and I am ready to receive them regardless of how difficult the path. Amen.

The shortest distance between a problem and a solution is the distance between your knees and the floor. The one who kneels to the Lord can stand up to anything.




 

God Chose You

“…God chose the foolish things of the world….weak things of the world…lowly things of this world…despised things…the things that are not…” (1 Corinthians 1:27-28 NIV)

Many times I stand amazed at God’s choices especially when it comes to ministers of God’s Kingdom. They may not have bright talents or abilities. Yet they minister so powerfully.

You may have asked this question yourself - “How am I here in this place? Am I really qualified to do this?”

We read the answer in today’s Bible passage quoted above. Paul encourages his disciples to know this great truth: God prefers the ‘not so wise’, ‘not so influential’ and ‘not of noble birth’ type of individuals (v.26). Why does God prefer them? Here’s the reason: He selects the ‘foolish’ people to shame the wise; He selects the ‘weak’ people to shame the strong (v.27). He selects the lowly and despised people to cancel out what the world considers important so that no one can ever boast in the presence of God (v.28).

Beloved, if you are struggling to do things properly or if you are pressurized to perform in your carrier, remember that God knows you completely more than anyone else. He has chosen you to function as He has created you to be. Don’t compare yourself with others. As a disciple of Christ, you will always see the hand of God protecting you.

In the following verse (1 Corinthians 1:30), Paul says that God alone made it possible for us to be in Christ Jesus. Jesus is the one who made us acceptable to God the Father. He made us pure and holy and He gave Himself up on the cross to purchase our freedom.

Remember: don’t struggle to be perfect in every thing that you do. You may make thousands of mistakes in your day-to-day affairs; but get up and do the right thing once again! Commit your life, carrier and dreams into God’s hands. Let Him make it superb, brighter and shining before others. You are called to be a winner through Christ Jesus!

John Mason gives a beautiful insight: “Be an answer. Get in the way of someone you know is on the way down. Walk in on someone you can help when others are walking out. There are no unimportant jobs, no unimportant people and no unimportant acts of kindness.”

Be a blessing to others. Relax and enjoy your life that God has given you. He is with you. And He will guide you through.

Tomorrow is not promised



Sometimes people come into your life
and you know right away that they were meant to be there,
they serve some sort of purpose,
teach you a lesson
or help figure out who you are
and who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be:
your neighbor, child, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger
who, when you lock eyes with them,
you know at that very moment that they will affect your life
in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you
and at the time they seem painful and unfair,
but in reflection you realize
that without overcoming those obstacles
you would have never realized
your potential strength, will power, or heart.

Everything happens for a reason.
Nothing happens by chance
or by means of good or bad luck.
Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity
all occur to test the limits of your soul.

Without these small tests,
whether they be events, illnesses or relationships,
life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere,
safe and comfortable,
but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life
and the successes and downfalls you experience
create who you are,
and even the bad experiences can be learned from,
In fact, they are probably the poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart,
forgive them,
for they have helped you learn about trust
and the importance of being cautious to
whom you open your heart…

If someone loves you,
love them back unconditionally,
not only because they love you,
but because they are teaching you to love
and opening your heart and eyes to things
you would have never seen or felt without them.

Make every day count.
Appreciate every moment
and take from it everything that you possibly can,
for you may never be able to experience it again…

Talk to people you have never talked to before,
and actually listen,
let yourself fall in love,
break free and set your sights high…

Hold your head up because you have every right too.
Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself…
for if you don’t believe in yourself,
no one else will believe in you either.
Create your own life
and then go out and live in it!

“Live Each Day As If It Were Your Last…

Tomorrow is Not Promised”

Monday, September 26, 2011

Should Christians Observe Halloween? Boo Humbug!


Halloween a day celebrated around the world when people dress up in costumes, collect candy from neighbors and have parties, but do you ever take time to think about the origins of Halloween? Most people don't think twice about participating in it saying "It's all in fun" or "Its not evil to me", but is this so called hallow evening really so innocent?







Why You Should Fast



If you do not already know of the power and importance of fasting, here are some very important facts:
  • Fasting was an expected discipline in both the Old and New Testament eras. For example, Moses fasted at least two recorded forty-day periods. Jesus fasted 40 days and reminded His followers to fast, "when you fast," not if you fast.
  • Fasting and prayer can restore the loss of the "first love" for your Lord and result in a more intimate relationship with Christ.
  • Fasting is a biblical way to truly humble yourself in the sight of God (Psalm 35:13; Ezra 8:21). King David said, "I humble myself through fasting."
  • Fasting enables the Holy Spirit to reveal your true spiritual condition, resulting in brokenness, repentance, and a transformed life.
  • The Holy Spirit will quicken the Word of God in your heart and His truth will become more meaningful to you!
  • Fasting can transform your prayer life into a richer and more personal experience.
  • Fasting can result in a dynamic personal revival in your own life-and make you a channel of revival to others.
  • Fasting and prayer are the only disciplines that fulfill the requirements of II Chronicles 7:14:
"If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land."

If you fast, you will find yourself being humbled as I did. You will discover more time to pray and seek God's face. And as He leads you to recognize and repent of unconfessed sin, you will experience special blessings from God.

I want to quit

If there was ever a day I wanted to quit my blog, it would be today.

 

I'm completely exhausted with this thing.

Is it fair to say with every good thing comes a season when you wrestle with the thoughts of walking away?

I know that's not super spiritual. Sorry.

But sometimes quitting seems a lot easier than pushing through the pain and exhaustion.


Don't worry, I'm probably not gonna quit this blog cause my friends won't let me.
[Plus I'm sure if I did, Conrad would lovingly and sarcastically insult me back to my senses :)].

I know people come here to be encouraged so I'm sorry for being a debbie downer today and for being whinny. Just where I am.

I know I'm blessed. I know I don't have 'perspective' right now.

Maybe I just need a vacation or a nap.

Anyone else feel like they just wanna quit _______?

If so, I hope you have people in your life who won't let you quit cause there's so much at stake.

Quitting is not really an option. You probably already know that. You know you can't walk away from your kids or your church or your job or your passions or your dreams or whatever else is kicking your butt right now.

But that doesn't always make it easier. Sometimes we just need to crawl up in a corner and scream 'I wanna quit'...

Then dust ourselves up and get back to the grind cause His grace is enough.

But if you need some space to anonymously vent or whine about wanting to walk away cause it seems it would be easier, then feel free to let it out in the comments.

What are you tempted to walk away from?

Have you ever felt like you wanted to quit something that was going well?

How do you deal with the temptation to walk away?

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Why Do Women Cry?

“Why are you crying?”, a young boy asked his Mom.

“Because I’m a woman,” she told him. “I don’t understand,” he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will, but that’s O.K.”… Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?”. “All women cry for no reason,” was all his Dad could say… The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked “God, why do women cry so easily?”

GOD answered…

When I made woman, I decided she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, made her arms gentle enough to give comfort…I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come even from her own children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining…I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly…

She has the very special power to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager’s anxieties and fears…I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart…I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed. It is hers to use whenever needed and it is her only weakness.

When you see her cry, tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, and even though she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good.


Speaking in Tongues : Real or Fake?


Speaking in Tongues : Is it real or fake?


Speaking in tongues is the New Testament phenomena where a person speaks in a language that is unknown to him. This language is either the language of angels or other earthly languages (1 Cor. 13:1). It occurred in Acts 2 at Pentecost and also in the Corinthian church as is described in 1 Corinthians 14. This New Testament gift was given by the Holy Spirit to the Christian church and is for the purpose of the edification of the Body of Christ as well as for glorifying the Lord.

There seems to be three divisions in the use of tongues: First, a private prayer language that is not interpreted; second, a language that is interpreted — this defines proper usage in the Christian congregation; and third, missionary context — that is, it appears in the context of evangelism where people are presenting the gospel.

Speaking in Tongues : Must for Salvation?


Some churches maintain that you must speak in tongues in order to be saved. This is a grave mistake since not all people speak in tongues because not all people are gifted by the Holy Spirit this way. Tongues must not be focused on as being the only evidence of having received the Holy Ghost/Spirit. It is NOT the only evidence of Holy Spirit! 1 Cor. 12:27-31 Everyone does not receive the gift of speaking in tongues. Just as we must not forbid it, we must also not require it. The bible does NOT say that speaking in tongues is required and it does NOT say that speaking in tongues is the only evidence of receiving the Holy Ghost.

1 Cor. 12:7-11,28-31 — “But to each one is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. 8 For to one is given the word of wisdom through the Spirit, and to another the word of knowledge according to the same Spirit; 9 to another faith by the same Spirit, and to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, 10 and to another the effecting of miracles, and to another prophecy, and to another the distinguishing of spirits, to another various kinds of tongues, and to another the interpretation of tongues. 11 But one and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually just as He wills…28 And God has appointed in the church, first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, administrations, various kinds of tongues. 29 All are not apostles, are they? All are not prophets, are they? All are not teachers, are they? All are not workers of miracles, are they? 30 All do not have gifts of healings, do they? All do not speak with tongues, do they? All do not interpret, do they? 31 But earnestly desire the greater gifts.

So, the gifts of the Spirit are varied and they are for the edification of the body of Christ. Speaking in tongues is not necessary for salvation and it is not a prerequisite proof of Baptism in the Holy Spirit. We must remember the words of Paul in 1 Cor. 13:1-2,13 given below.

“If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing….13 But now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”

Speaking in Tongues : Holy Bible says


Acts 2
Acts 10
Acts 19:1-7
1 Cor. 12
1 Cor. 14
Mark 16:17
 

Speaking in Tongues : Conclusion


Speaking in tongues is a Real Gift from GOD. Sometimes some people speak false gibbish, some times people speak in devil tongues but other times some people do correctly use the real gift from GOD known as speaking in tongues. If and when done from and of God, it is Biblical. The ministers that forbid it are going against 1 Cor. 14:39 “forbid not to speak with tongues”! Paul’s solution to the tongues problem in the Corinthian Church was not to forbid tongues, but to correct the improper use of the gift from GOD.

It was not for just the day of Pentecost. Pentecost happened in Acts 2. But speaking in tongues was continued in Acts 10 and Acts 19. No where in the Bible does it say that it stopped being allowed or that it was reserved only for the early days of the church. In fact, it says it will also be for the end times! And if it was for the early days AND the end times, then it is also for the in-between times! Acts 2:16-20.

Do you speak in tongues? Please share your thoughts here.


HEALING THROUGH KNEELING



We start to heal once we begin to kneel in prayer and allow the convictions of our hearts to take hold.

As our Lord listens intently to our heart, He will begin to shed His grace and mercy upon us. We must first believe on His Son, Jesus.


The scriptures tell us that in order to reach the Father, we must go through the Son.


Believing on Jesus and what He did for us on the cross makes communicating with the Father much easier. Through Him all things are possible. God's extended arms are ready to enfold us in a loving embrace. His desire is for us to come to Him daily. He already knows our every wish and request long before we do. Even so, He still wants us to talk with Him. Whatever sorrow, guilt, or pain we possess, our Heavenly Father is always ready to unburden us.


The phrase, "Let Go and Let God", speaks of that truth. God sent His only Son to Calvary to pay our sin debt in full so that we may live. He wants us to bring our heavy hearts and place our burdens at the foot of the cross. Through our acts of prayer and supplication, we can begin to heal.


Oh what grace our God supplies..... for once we kneel we begin to heal.


Saturday, September 24, 2011

A Dozen Sayings of Jesus That Will Change the World—If Christians Ever Believe Them



When I began to write this post, I looked for a dozen passages in the Scriptures that Christians in the West largely ignored in practice, despite mentally assenting to the truths contained therein. But what scared me as I delved into this was that far too many passages of the Scriptures are simply ignored.

So I started focusing. Eventually, I narrowed down a dozen sayings of Jesus from the book of Matthew alone. A sad state of affairs, indeed, that I can cull a dozen passages from just one book that are largely ignored by enlightened Evangelicals. But there you have it. Perhaps if we were more serious about the Scriptures, we’d spend more time putting these words into practice and less time obsessing over the petty little kingdoms we build in our own names.

1. “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you….”
—Matthew 5:43-44


We love to hate our enemies, don’t we? In like manner, we don’t seem to much believe in the power of prayer to either change our enemies or change our own antipathy toward them. It’s a double-edged sword that continues to cut the Western Church to shreds. Do we love people in Al-Qaeda? Do we love Iran’s leadership or North Korea’s? Do we pray for those enemies?
I didn’t think so…

2. “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money. “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. ”
Matthew 6:24-34


I think it would be telling if God raised up a prophet within His Church who was able by word of knowledge to point out those in the Church who loved money more than God. The awful truth may be that God doesn’t need such a prophet; I suspect that most of us in the West would fail that test, no supernatural revelation needed.

When we look at how we spend our time, most of it is devoted not to doing the Lord’s work but accumulating the trappings of an opulent society that has forgotten God and believes too much in its own ability to provide. We devote outlandish amounts of time to making money and next-to-nothing for the eternal Kingdom of God. I believe that any one of us can run the numbers on our own lives. This is no sacred/secular division test, but one of the heart. We will devote our time to what we love. And most of us are devoted to what will burn and not to the Lord who made us and who calls us to be a holy people separated unto Him.

3. “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. ”
Matthew 7:1-5


Love first. Again, love first. It’s funny how loving first seems to temper any judging that may follow.

I find it difficult to criticize anyone. My own failings are ever before me. If I have energy left at the end of the day, it is best spent cleaning up my own house rather than telling my neighbor how to clean up his.

The world has largely closed its ears to the message of the Gospel because Christians can’t seem to get their own house in order before telling everyone else how to clean up theirs. That’s pride. And God hates pride more than just about any other sin.

4. Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”
Matthew 16:24-25


Unless a seed falls into the ground and dies, it cannot bear fruit. We have too many living people in the Church and not enough who are dead to the world. Dead people have nothing to lose in battle. They fight with abandon. They fight despite overwhelming odds. They fight with weapons that are not theirs simply because they own nothing of their own anymore. Therefore, God equips them with His weapons and His gifts. And those dead people change the world.
The cross is death to the self. And until we’re dead, we’re useless to the Kingdom.

5. When they came to Capernaum, the collectors of the two-drachma tax went up to Peter and said, “Does your teacher not pay the tax?” He said, “Yes.” And when he came into the house, Jesus spoke to him first, saying, “What do you think, Simon? From whom do kings of the earth take toll or tax? From their sons or from others?” And when he said, “From others,” Jesus said to him, “Then the sons are free. ”
Matthew 17:24-26


I’ve never heard a sermon on this passage. This to me is a crime.
Christian, do you understand this passage? The world does not own you. Nor do you owe it. You are free.

Yet how many Christians out there are in bondage to the world? Many are weighed down by the cares of accumulation and keeping up appearances. Others cannot move beyond the past. Some are in bondage to the future. Many are trapped in the hell of legalism and performance.
These are people to be pitied.

Christian, you are free! It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you or asks of you. You are a son or daughter who only answers to the Father.

Now start acting like free men and women.

6. And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.
Matthew 18:2-4


No adults make it into the Kingdom of Heaven, only children. Only children have the faith necessary to believe in a world bigger than the one they see with their eyes. This is how heaven is, the place where God dwells. And only the children can see it.

We place too much emphasis on “mature faith,” yet my experience has been that those who self-label as mature are often the most faithless people. They claim to know God, yet they sell Him short whenever anything miraculous is needed. Their favorite word is but.

Where I come from, that kind of “faith” is no faith at all.

7. And Jesus answered them, “Truly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what has been done to the fig tree, but even if you say to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ it will happen. And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”
Matthew 21:21-22


Christians in the West believe in what their eyes tell them. They believe in science. They believe in the rational. But they do not believe that mountains can be cast into the sea by faith. And this is why so many lost people have given up on the Church. When even the believers no longer believe, what then is the point?

8. But when the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together. And one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”
Matthew 22:34-40


I hear too many complaints from people concerning memorizing Scripture. Anyone can memorize Scripture if he loves the words of God found in the Bible.

I firmly believe that if all Christians everywhere were to memorize this one passage and live it, the world would be transformed in one generation.

Instead, we seem to love ourselves, love the stuff we accumulate for ourselves, give God a passing mention, and think about our neighbors only when they are threatening our selves or our stuff.

And we wonder why no one in the West cares to hear what the Christian Church has to say. When even the rankest pagan knows this passage and is astounded that most Christians don’t get it, why should we then be surprised that they have no time to hear anything else from us about the Lord we claim to serve?

9. “But you are not to be called rabbi, for you have one teacher, and you are all brothers. And call no man your father on earth, for you have one Father, who is in heaven. Neither be called instructors, for you have one instructor, the Christ. The greatest among you shall be your servant. Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”
Matthew 23:8-12


We love our hierarchies, don’t we? We all want to be the bigshot. We love titles, and degree designations, and certifications, and anything that smacks of privilege—but Jesus said it is all bunk. The real bigshots are the least likely people, the ones who serve.

What would happen in the average church if the measure by which people gained status was by humble service? The irony is that the genuine servants would serve despite the status, even if they got punished for the service rather than accruing spiritual brownie points. They realize the Lord they ultimately serve is a gentle, humble servant Himself. And one who grades on an entirely different scale than the Western Church or the world does.

Do we believe we are all equal before the Lord? Or do we ascribe to an Orwellian Animal Farm philosophy where some are more equal than others?

10. “Therefore, stay awake, for you do not know on what day your Lord is coming. But know this, that if the master of the house had known in what part of the night the thief was coming, he would have stayed awake and would not have let his house be broken into. Therefore you also must be ready, for the Son of Man is coming at an hour you do not expect.”
Matthew 24:42-44


People are known for what they serve. And they are known for that service by their preparation for it. A firefighter trains for the fire. A pilot trains for the flight.

What is our service and how do we prepare for it?

It’s very simple: We do not live as if the Lord may return tomorrow. We don’t, and we have no excuse. The Lord holds out His hands pleading for the Church to be the Church, but we instead want to be the World. So little work for the Kingdom goes forth because we park ourselves in front of our favorite form of entertainment, shop for more crap that will burn on Judgment Day, or complain about how bored we are.

Meanwhile, the thief has robbed our house and left us with nothing that will survive God’s holy fire come the Last Day.

11. “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on his glorious throne. Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. And he will place the sheep on his right, but the goats on the left. Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’ “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not clothe me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ Then they also will answer, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to you?’ Then he will answer them, saying, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’ And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.”
Matthew 25:31-46


Both the sheep and the goats called Jesus Lord. The only difference between the sheep and the goats, according to what Jesus says here, is was what they did and did not do.

God help the goats. Too many of them are sitting in the pews. Worse, too many of them are leading our churches.

If we believed this passage, the orphanages would be empty.

12. And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
Matthew 28:18-20


I haven’t had a stranger attempt to share the Gospel one-on-one with me in decades. Rank chance would tell us that with several million Evangelicals in this country, the odds of not having heard the Gospel one-on-one from a stranger goes to zero.

The only explanation that it is not zero, in fact far from it, is that virtually no one is interested in making disciples. The population of born-again Christians is stable or declining in the United States. The reason is a failure to take this closing passage in Matthew seriously.

Someone else will do the work, we subconsciously think. Isn’t that what we pay pastors for?
It doesn’t matter whether your gift is evangelism and teaching or not. Each Christian is commanded to make and raise up disciples.

Twelve sayings of Jesus with the power to change the world. That it is not being changed on our side of the planet can only be explained by our inability to believe what Jesus said.

And if we cannot believe what Jesus said, how then can we truly call ourselves His disciples?